No matter how much two partners may love, understand, and care for each other; at times there might be issues, but what do you think happens when such issues come up in their relationship or marriage? That’s what I am going to unveil briefly in this article…
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Lots of partners may have full understanding of each other and as well love each other so much and even to a fault; but little issues can rip them apart for days, weeks, months, years, or even forever.
The question I need you to ask yourself right now is: “How do I handle my relationship/marriage issues?”. Not just asking yourself the question, please try to provide true answer(s) to the question.
If you lack tactics in handling your marital or relationship issues, then that’s where the problem is in your relationship/marital life. Solving an issue is also an issue; hope you grabbed my point?
Patience (or rather endurance) is very important in handling relationship or marital issues; when you are having issues with your partner, please you have to summon the spirit of patience/endurance; otherwise, you would be making it worse than it is.
Be tactical in handling your own issues, do not tackle it with so much anger, shouts, blames, and so on and so forth. Just calm yourself down and have time to think about ways you can use to settle the issue amicably.
Time to settle issue, if you really mean to settle the issue, is not time for laying blames of each other; it is not time for bringing up past faults of your partners. It is time for letting go of all grudges, okay. It is not time to create more problems/issues by uttering unnecessary statements.
It is not every issue you have with your partner that a third party should be in the know of. Before you share with your confidant or counselor, you must make sure that the issue has become critical, so critical beyond or above your own capability of handling.
I believe that every issue in marriage/relationship can be settled only if the two partners have made up their minds individually, but at the same time, to put an end to the issue; and to be able to do so, they (the partners) have to let go of blames, prolonged anger or grief over each other.
But in a case where one of the partners or both refuses to make peace or to have the issue be settled after a long period of time (say months or years), I recommend that the relationship be dissolved.
In the case of marriage, I will recommend that the issue be taken to a Spiritual Director (Pastor or Priest); in addition to that, the parents or kinsmen of the partners should be notified about the issue.
Above all these already mentioned; I am urging the partners to seek the face of God if truly they desire to continue together. This they should do by living a righteous life, and not doing so while committing atrocities.
I have handled lots of relationship issues for the past 11 years; I started handling relationship issues and/or giving relationship advice from the age of sixteen (16), yeah from the age of 16 years. So early right? I am kind of weird in some of my actions and life activities…
I have encountered some issues that I myself had to consult and/or involve God in proffering suitable solutions to them. We are humans, we may be wise, knowledgeable, and intelligent, but God is omniscient and omnipotent.
God needs not to come down from heaven to settle the issue; in the course of praying or meditating, He can commune with your Psyche on what you should do or ways to best handle the issue.
When partners are having issues (be it in relationship or in marriage); I only need them to know that two of them are the best persons to settle the issue and get back together.
Until two of the partners who are having issue in relationship or in marriage agree to put an end to the issue, such issue cannot be settle.
And in a case when the two are fed up with each other being together, and they are so sure they cannot continue anymore, please let them part ways and go on with their lives rather than fooling themselves in the name of still trying to make up.
Having handled lots of relationship issues, I was successful in solving each case/issue because one or both of the partners assisted me by giving me relevant answers to the questions I asked.
Even when someone is helping out in settling an issue, the partner or partners have to open up their mind(s) to the person who is handling the issue.
Even if you lie to your partner on certain things about the cause of the issue, please do not hide anything (I mean every truth) you know about the issue which can help in putting an end to the issue.
As I mentioned earlier that I am going to make this piece brief; I am going to end it here for this particular article. But I will love to have your opinions and views on issues in relationship and/or marriage.
Your own experiences and how you handled your own marital/relationship issues can be helpful to someone out there. There are lots of relationships/marriages out there suffering the same or similar issue(s) you have suffered in the past.
Your own solutions to those issues will help bring unity, peace, happiness, and togetherness in someone’s relationship or marriage.
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