How To Bring Back Love In Relationship & Marriage (10 Simple Possible Ways)
How To Bring Back Love In Relationship: Here are ten simple possible ways to bring back love in relationship and marriage; how to get someone to love you.
Highlights of this Article:
- How to bring back love in a relationship and marriage
- How to get someone to love you
- How someone can know a true love
- How to identify and handle love problems and solutions
- Marriage and relationship tips
- How to bring back the love of your boyfriend or girlfriend
- How to get feelings back for someone
- How to regain love in a relationship
- Can someone fall back in love?
- How to get your relationship back to the way it was
- How to get the spark back in a broken relationship
- How to make someone fall back in love with you again
- How to bring back the love of your partner
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that “Love lasts forever” too many times already. It’s something we grew up reading in romance novels and hearing people talk about.
Imagine this scenario: Boy meets girl. They fall in love. Boy proposes to girl. They get married and they lived happily ever after.
Does that sound like real life to you? I’m sure you’re shaking your head right now. Yes, you’re very right. That’s some Hollywood Cinderella story. A fairy tale. I’m not saying that we don’t have couples who aren’t living in harmony. I’m saying that sometimes love fades. It happens all the time. You see a couple who seem inseparable one minute and the next, they can’t stand each other.
WHERE DID THE LOVE GO?
What can you do to bring back that spark in your relationship?
Nobody wants their love to fade. You don’t want to be a with someone who changes their mind about you some months down the line. It can be heartbreaking watching what you’ve worked so hard to build get washed down the drain. Every relationship gets to that point where you begin to question some things and it’s like there’s a curfew on your love. What then do you do to revive the lost love?
1. Are You On The Same Page With Your Partner?
This is the first thing you need to check. If you and your partner aren’t on the same page concerning the relationship, you’ll only be wasting your time. Do they still want to work on getting the love back? Do they still care for you? Are they showing signs of frustration concerning the relationship? These are some very paramount questions to ask.
You can’t force someone who doesn’t love you anymore to show you care to say the least. If your partner has zeroed their mind about severing the relationship cord, you can just forget about reading further. Let them go.
When you force yourself on them, you’ll not only look pathetic but you’ll be bringing untold heartache and agony to yourself. It’s like forcing a dead love to rise again. Let the dead love get buried in peace. Move on. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
2. Recall What Attracted You To Them
Before the down-slide, you loved some things about your partner. These things attracted you to them. Maybe they could cook or they were caring. It could be their sympathetic attitude or their intelligence. You fell head over heels on love with your partner because they exuded these patterns and attributes that you found very attractive.
Now, you can’t see them anymore because you fight all the time and they’re the last person you want to deal with right now. If you really want to rekindle that spark in your relationship, you need to start recalling those things that attracted you to them. Bringing these attributes to the surface can help you realize how much value they’re worth.
It can help you remember how good and beneficial they can be. It can help you feel warm about them and make you understand why you chose them in the first place. If you can remember what attracted you to your significant other, it could be the start of something new and fresh.
3. Initiate An Activity or Event They Like
Can you remember the things your partner likes to do? Something they really enjoy and can’t say no to? I would forgive any wrong over a bucket of ice cream and a cozy night in, watching movies. Lol. (I’m just saying).
Your partner should have activities or events that they like doing. It could be swimming, road trips, dancing, going to parties or musical shows, sight seeing etc. Initiating these events for two can do wonders. If they like comedy, how about you buy a ticket for two for a comedy show with comedians they like.
Going to events they like can improve your relationship, improve their mood and do wonders to the spark in your hearts. The goal is to make them happy and bond at the same time. This is one way to draw them in. It’s a non verbal way of showing you still care about what they care for and how much you want them to be happy. Little things matter when trying to rekindle the dying embers of your relationship. Keep throwing those coins into the jar, you’re getting close.
4. Give Peace Offerings
Everyone loves receiving gifts. When I started dating my boyfriend, he would tell me that my happiness was all that mattered to him and whether I gave him a gift or not, it didn’t matter to him. I couldn’t understand this. Who doesn’t love receiving gifts?
He would shower me with gifts every now and then.
At some point, I started to feel some level of discomfort, knowing I needed to show him love too in the same way (at least once). I couldn’t be getting all the gifts. It wasn’t fair. So, I planned something really nice for him and when the order came in and I presented it to him on his birthday, I could literally see the excitement jump off his face. He loved it. That’s when I realized something.
He loved to receive gifts but he didn’t want to put pressure on me to get them. He didn’t want it to be a big deal and I tried to respect that wish. I didn’t stop giving him gifts. I just made sure that they were done reasonably and spaced out. In essence, everyone loves gifts and what other way to show how much you care about someone than giving?
You know what they like, channel your gifts towards that direction. This is not a bribe. This is not to make them love you. This is to awaken their love senses to you. This is to get back to the way you were before. This is to remind them of how good things used to be and could still be. This is to rekindle the flame of your love. This is to show them that you still care about them and the relationship.
Make them understand that the relationship is worth fixing and you want this as much as they do. Giving gifts shows that they’re on your mind and you were thinking of them. If you were giving gifts at the beginning of the relationship, this would be interpreted as renewed efforts. Don’t give them a gift because you feel obligated to do it or because I said so. Don’t do it because you’re hoping it works. Do it because you want to get back to the love train and you want to show them you still care.
5. Build Intimacy
Physical affection has been proven to aid intimacy. The littlest and tiniest of affections can rekindle that spark once again. Holding hands, hugs, kisses, pecks, cuddling and even touching can help you and your partner get back the kind affection you have towards each other.
In a relationship gone sour, it’s perfectly understandable that you might not even want to touch your partner or maybe they’re the one not willing to have any physical contact with you. Intimacy releases Oxytocin which is a feel good hormone responsible for affection and warm feelings.
Staying in touch with your desire and initiating sexual worship can be a powerful way to stay in tune with your emotions and feel closer to your partner. Sex has also been proven to bring couples together. It may not be the most important quality in a relationship but it isn’t the least.
6. Find Your Peace
Sometimes, the problems of a relationship can be one sided. You cannot completely love someone who isn’t at peace with himself or herself. It’s like a troubled soul seeking succour but can’t stay still enough to get it. If you haven’t sorted out your personal issues, they will creep into your relationship life and ruin everything for you. It’s that simple.
Work stress, anxiety, frustrations, family issues, personal life issues, financial problems etc are examples of things that can cause emotional aggression which can in turn affect the way you respond to your relationship issues. You can’t be talking about rekindling a fire when you might be the reason it burnt out and you’re not willing to address the source.
7. Woo Them All Over Again
Apart from activities that you know that your partner likes, another way to get that spark back would be to woo them all over again. Go on dates, send them love texts, take long walks together, surprise them at work, buy them flowers, spend time together, make the love come alive once more by doing the things you used to do.
Leave little love notes all around, in their pockets or somewhere they can find them, send them poems or songs that describes how you feel about them. Do the things they love and watch them melt all over again.
It’s easy to get tired of a routine and that’s what most relationships are these days, a boring routine and when you can no longer fit into that pattern, you give up on the whole deal altogether. You get tired. You get frustrated. You feel the love is fading. Wooing your partner all over again can bring the love back.
I had an ex who knew how much I loved music. One time, we had an argument (He was at fault anyway. Lol). We didn’t talk to each other for days and the next thing I knew, he was at my doorstep with an apology box. I opened it and saw a CD. That was the last thing I wanted to see but I was curious, so I played it and I knew what he’d done. He made a playlist of all my favourite “I’m sorry” songs. That was too cute. In that moment, everything faded – the anger, the hurt and all. He could be a jerk but he was my jerk.
Woo them all over again. Open doors and slide out chairs for her. Take them out for lunch. Go see a movie in the cinema. Give them thoughtful gifts. I can’t promise you it’s going to be an immediate antidote but it will definitely make a difference.
8. Spend Time With Them
Alter your schedule. You might be busy with work but make them understand how much being with them means to you. Try as much as you can to spend time with them. Your work can’t take all your energy if you’re trying to fix a spark. Give them a piece of your day too. When they know that they matter that much to you, it would mean a lot.
This is not about just being in the same space with them. When I talk about spending time, I mean being present in the moment with them. Listening to them, having an actual conversation with them. Sharing a part of you with them too.
9. Prioritize Them
This is another way to show them how much you value them. Letting your significant other know how that they’ll always come first can aid closeness and glue the severed bond. When you love someone truly, it’s only natural that you place their needs and wants above yours.
It’s not called being whipped. It’s called placing value. If you want your partner to take you serious, show them how much you take them serious. You want to awaken that love? Make them a priority in your affairs.
10. Express How You Feel In Words Too
Actions speak but words do too. It’s like getting on one knee to propose to a woman without saying anything. You just prop yourself on one knee, whip out the ring and smile at her without saying a word. She’s looking down at the ring, at you and smiling too. Nothing is said, just smiles and a special uneasiness. It doesn’t make sense.
Words are powerful. You’ve heard them say it before. Time and time again. One of the biggest steps you’ll take in rekindling your relationship is to be vocal about what you want, feel and need. Tell them how much you care for them, show it afterwards.
People believe words when they’re backed with actions quite alright. But words themselves hold power and everyone wants to hear how loved they are or how much someone values them. People give other people attention simply because of what they say, how they say it and when they say it. You have something to say, say it.
Another point to note is that sometimes none of these options work. You could try and keep at it from now till next summer and still not get an positive response from your partner. That doesn’t mean you have failed as a lover or a person. It means love is no longer on the menu. You did your best and it’s time to move to greater things. Take it in good faith and raise your head high. You did your bit.
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